Wellness is also about balance. We all play different roles in our lives (student, mother, partner, employee, volunteer, crafter extraordinaire, friend, social activist, etc). How much energy do we invest in each? Do we ignore certain parts of ourselves? If you were to rate the percentage of all the different aspects of your health, which one is your strongest? which one do you struggle with the most?
Of course, we don’t always have control over all these aspects. There are personal aspects to wellness and there are social aspects to wellness. We cannot ignore the fact that there are many systemic barriers that can prevent some of us from achieving optimum health such as poverty and lack of employment, racial stereotyping and exclusion, queer violence and repression of sexual and gendered expressions, violence against women and controlling relationships, etc. These can strongly have an impact on all types of wellness. Telling someone in these situations that they should just try to take more self-responsibility or to try thinking more positively can be disempowering and just as oppressive.
That being said, we can take a look at what we can control personally and take an inventory. This is one good tool to do that.
Mine is really off balance right now. Too much work and introspection, not enough relaxation, connection with friends and participation in the greater community.
On that note, I’m going to make another pot of tea and find some quiet space.
How do you practice self-love?
How does this contribute to better wellness?